"Suicide destroys memory.
It undercuts one of our most romantic and most comforting notions: that we don't really die, because we live on in the memories of those who love us.
When you kill yourself, you're killing every memory everyone has of you.
You're taking yourself away permanently and removing all traces that you were ever here in the first place, wiping away every fingerprint you ever left on anything.
You're saying, "I'm gone, and you can't even be sure who it is that's gone, because you never knew me.
So what did I know about my father, really?"
-Joan Wickersham, The Suicide Index
As a challenge, Rules of Engagement is an ongoing list of 250+ quirks, characteristics, inside jokes, and general observations of my late father.